Do You Give Comment Love?


Recently, while doing the rounds of A to Z April Blogging Challenge it has come to my notice that some bloggers don’t get any comments at all, despite well-written posts, and others get dozens, despite a post which has nothing special to recommend it. This isn’t great for the blogging community.

With the Challenge in another 15 days or so, as a co-host I wanted to discuss this situation, and to help me do this, I’ve invited DL Hammons, another co-host, to Daily (w)rite.

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First off, I want to thank Damyanti for allowing me to hijack her blog for the day.  I wanted to take this opportunity to discuss the importance of community, cross promotion, and at the same time talk about a brand new way to share comment love.

April 2013 A to Z Blogging Challenge Sign-ups

Blogging from A to Z April Challenge

Being a co-host of the A to Z April Blogging Challenge has given me a chance to broaden my exposure to the outpouring of support the blogosphere has to offer.  Hands down, there is no better resource for aspiring writers. Information and experience is shared openly by multi-published authors, agents, editors, other industry professionals, even newbie writers attending their first conference.  The trick is learning how to shake off the insecurities that accompany being new, and just dive in.

I’m constantly reading how new bloggers are intimidated by this seemingly tight-knit community, taking a long time before they work up the courage to comment.  That’s funny, because comments are the life blood of blogging.  It’s the positive feedback received from these snippets of sunshine that motivates all of us to continue to churn out helpful material.  It’s also the Yin-Yang philosophy of the blogosphere that adds a different significance to commenting.  If you want to be noticed, then the best way is to do that is to comment, and comment often.

Insecure Writer's Support Group

Insecure Writers!

 There have been many vehicles developed to help bloggers make connections with others just like them.  Blog hops, Blogfests, IWSG, and the A to Z Challenge are just a few examples.  But recently a worrisome trend has crept up where people feel they don’t get nearly as many comments as they make when participating in these events.  Whether this is true or not, a good rule of thumb is to treat every comment you leave as both a digital HUG…and an investment in your own imprint.  People tend to gravitate towards bloggers who comment frequently…and have something to say beyond “Nice Post.”

Blog Blitz

Blog Blitz

I recently invented something new, and it squarely revolves around commenting.  I call it the BLOG BLITZ.

Here’s how it works — after you sign up on the linky list (click on the badge), you’ll become a member of the Blog Blitz Team.  Then from time to time, I select a deserving blog (that must be part of the Blitz Team) and a specific date.  I then email the team members the information and on that date we all go out of our way to visit that blog and leave an encouraging comment on their most recent post.  I’m talking about hopefully a 100+ comments appearing out of the blue in one day!

At first I’ll pick who gets blitzed, but then I’ll start taking recommendations from other members for deserving targets. My only restriction about who joins the Blog Blitz Team is that your blog cannot be primarily for commercial gain.

Thanks again to Damyanti for sharing her space with me. If you take anything from my words today, let it be this…spread the comment love!

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DL Hammons

DL Hammons

D.L. Hammons  enjoys taking a break from writing technical journals and procedure manuals for his day job and dabbling with novel writing or an occasional short story.  Son of a military family, he grew up across the southeast and ultimately graduated with a Business degree from Louisiana State University.  After a stint working in the big city (Atlanta), he packed up his family and settled in central Arkansas to be closer to family.  His love for writing was seeded in high school where he wrote both news and feature articles for the school paper, but it wasn’t until his children began heading off to college that he found the time to resurrect his passion for prose.  Although his first love falls into the Mystery/Suspense realm, he has recently discovered an interest in YA.  His short story Itinerary is scheduled to be published in AN HONEST LIE this spring.

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124 thoughts on “Do You Give Comment Love?

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  4. What a great idea! I try to comment on pieces that leave an impression on me. I love how you describe it as a digital hug. I have only ever recieved positive and supportive comments from this community and it makes me feel like people actually care.

  5. Definitely no fun to comment on your own work, unless you are into self-abuse. All thoughts, wicked little or otherwise are always welcomed…unless you make me cry.

  6. I always try to leave a comment (sometimes my net will wig and won’t let me) or if I can not think of something to say I will like a post and always share the ones that inspire me on my facebook. I love getting comments and hearing how people respond to all of my blogs (mainly my musings and craft ones), I tend to think of my blogs as selfish things no one really sees that way I am always suprised and delighted when I receive followers and commenters.

  7. I really enjoyed your post. When I first started blogging I didn’t know how to get other bloggers to visit my site. Then a co-worker and fellow blogger told me that she visits other blogs and leaves comments. This is a great way to connect with others in the blogging community. She was right. I started getting more visits to my blog and I found blogs that I really enjoy reading.

  8. Thanks for the visit to my blog! Comments ARE like hugs and this post helped me see the value in the time it takes to slowly make online relationships. Time I don’t always want to spend. :)
    Cindy

  9. I think the Blog Blitz is a great idea. I’m not new to blogging, but new to blogging on WordPress, so I’m just starting to really post again. I think it’s a matter of building connections to get that “comment love” we want.

  10. ‘Comment Love’ what a great term! Most of my comment love was from spam and because I was desperate and commentless I actually kept a few of those on my blog. I joined communities like Blogadda & Indiblogger so I could interact with other bloggers and share my blog posts but still lacking ‘comment love’. Maybee i doesnts rite that wel.

  11. Yeah, likes and follows that feel empty or promotional— commenting is the only way to really show you appreciate what the person did—or, as DL puts, the ‘lifeblood of blogging.’  The lack thereof seems less of insecurity and more of not having enough time (stretched thin, read or comment less).

    And “Nice Post” is not just empty— it might even be filtered out as SPAM.

  12. But what if someone comments on my comment, then I have to respond, then they respond, then my mother jumps in and corrects everything that’s been said so far, then people start getting pissed off; I start getting hate emails, have to move, grow a beard, and start talking in rhymes. Nope, it’s not worth it.

  13. This is a very good post. I’m pretty good, he said immodestly, at both commenting and liking but I have noticed that more and more, people ‘like’ a post, very possibly without reading it by use of the ‘reader’. This is dispiriting . What you say chimes with me and I am going to join your ‘Blog Blitz’ thing

  14. Very good tips and thoughts. It helps give those of us accustomed to lurking an incentive to reach out. Thanks! *going back to my Lurking Cave*

  15. I’m a late-comer to this post, but will join the blitz. I make a sincere effort to comment on other blogs, especially those that follow me, but it’s not often reciprocated. Perhaps the blitz will change things for me. Thanks for the post!

  16. Thanks for following my blog! Interesting post, something I’ve wondered about too – the amount of comments vs. post content. I’ve wondered if it has something to do with the popularity of the blogger, or amount of comments they leave themselves.
    A bit off-topic, but I’m new-ish to blogging and I’ve also been wondering about ‘likes’. It’s nice when someone likes your post, but I’ve noticed from looking at the stats that it doesn’t usually mean that the blogger has actually visited your blog and read the post…I’m wondering if likes have some social currency that I’m missing?

  17. Sometimes I just can’t think of anything to say regarding a post, but that doesn’t mean I dislike it. From now on I’ll try to do better and leave more comments cause I too need the “hugs.” :)

  18. Good morning – I enjoy commenting on my fellow bloggers’ posts. Sometimes I have much to say and others it may be a few simple words. I believe it is important to acknowledge everyone’s efforts. I look at it like this – another writer took the time to write something (and we all know how much time and work/effort that can be), so the least I can do is make a comment in return. Besides I enjoy what others have to say, even if it is something that does not tickle my fancy:)

    BTW, thank you for stopping by my blog and the follow – I may not have discovered you otherwise and I am very happy that I have!

  19. Thanks for following my blog. I like your “taking a long time before they work up the courage to comment.” I am new to blogging and I always just say thanks to those who have visited my blog. Your post has encouraged me to write more. Thanks again.

  20. I am one of those people who lurks but does not comment. Will work on that! I’m about to travel for two months with little internet access, but if the blog blitz is open when I fet back, I’ll join.

  21. What a great idea! I love cruising the blogs around wordpress and commenting here and there but rarely get comments back. It’s lovely to get ‘likes’, but I crave a comment – good or bad – that lets me know it a reader really ‘gets’ what I spent hours writing. Vickie

  22. I am sending some comment love. Thank you for following my blog. :)

    I think you’re observation about some people getting comments for writing nothing significant and other people writing interesting, thoughtful things getting no love was very insightful. It speaks volumes about our society. That being said, I would prefer to have few comments from people who really appreciate me than to get fluff in return for writing fluff.

  23. The lack of comments on my newish blog has left me a little pouty. I know I have readers, because my site was first set up for local/personal use among my clients and friends. But they are not really the bloggy/commenty type, as it turns out. They like me on facebook rather often, but just won’t migrate to blog love–this is the second time I’ve tried in my wellness/fitness advising life. The tell me in person, oh I love what you wrote. But as a writer, I am expecting to attract more words. I certainly spread enough of them around! lol. I like to interact online, and read and comment rather frequently. Thoughtfully, that’s my way. (case in point here). NaPoWriMo is helping me get some new traffic, other creative types…. but no comments. :-( toldya I was pouty. Anyhoo, I like the blitz idea and will sign up. Thanks!

  24. Great post and enjoy Cyber hugz!! I think when there are so many things to read people just look at the summary on the WP reader, but that is OK too! When they take the time to comment, it is even better! Looking forward to meeting everyone here!

  25. Thanks for visiting and liking. I do try to comment or at the least say thanks. Quite often there is no more to say other than “enjoyed your post”.You’re right tho’ – I get lots of visits but only a few comments. I see where I’m going wrong now. :)

  26. First let me say, thank you so much for following my blog, I am honored. I have a plug in comment luv on my blog which automatically displays the last post the commenter wrote, if they comment. I love comments and likes but it shows more support if someone actually takes the time to leave a comment. I always return the compliment.

  27. I’m fairly new to the world of blogging and it’s really disheartening not to get any comments. This article has given me hope. many thanks! The blog blitz is a terrific idea.

  28. Another thing I can suggest for getting more comments is to participate on a multi-blogger site. I maintain a blog on a site where several other bloggers post from time to time, and I notice I tend to get more views when I post there then if I just posted something on my own blog. Find a subject you find interesting, and a multi-blogger group to write with.

  29. I’m new to blogging and still learning the ropes. I try to comment often because it’s a good way to encourage each other. They have definitely made me feel welcome in the blogosphere. I signed up for the Blog Blitz but was a day late for the A to Z Challenge (sigh).
    Thank you DL and Damyanti for a terrific post! {{cyber hugs}}

  30. Hi Damyanti,

    Thanks so much for liking my post. And thanks fro all the good information of this page. I’m a new blogger too and have just about quit because it’s hard to break through the maze, especially if you’re writing about depression! I’m bookmarking this blog as a favorite.

  31. Great Post..
    Just kidding. Not about the post being great. I’m kidding about that being my comment.
    I love your Blog Blitz idea. What a great way to encourage bloggers who may not get many comments, especially new bloggers. I’m pretty new, and the sound of crickets chirping around my blog is discouraging. I know this is a common thing for new bloggers, but it still stinks. And gosh darn it, I was supposed to be the exception (kidding again).
    Having researched blogging before I started, I knew from the get-go that commenting on other blogs is important. Sometimes the problem is that I don’t know what to say beyond “great post” (or something similar) because I’m talking to a stranger. I write like I talk, and in real life I’m very quiet until you get to know me. :) When I have gotten brave and actually left comments, I have been discouraged by getting very few responses and even less reciprocation. It kinda feels like being the new kid in middle school who didn’t get the memo on what clothing was “in” and what clothing would deem you the outcast.
    My other blogging issue is that I tend to be too wordy; can you tell? :)
    Thanks for an informative and well-written piece!

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